My husband and I have really been trying to stay on top of disciplining our kids lately. We have let a few things go for far too long and it is time to get them reeled back in. Usually I hate it when we have done this because I feel like a jerk for suddenly correcting them for things they have been getting away with. It’s really not fair to them and it is because of my own lack of discipline. However this has been an extremely pleasant experience. The kid’s attitudes have been wonderful and I have found that the more opportunities there are to correct there are even double the opportunities to acknowledge their good behavior. I love to watch their little faces light up with a “good job sweetie” or a “I’m so glad you remembered to say please buddy!” You can see the pride all over their faces! A few nights ago as I was getting the kids ready for bed my oldest had done something, I don’t remember what, particularly exceptional. I was somewhat distracted with the bedtime routine and so I didn’t really comment much on it. Not in a whiny voice or with even a hint of rejection in her tone Bella politely asked, “Can you say you’re proud of me?” I absolutely told her I was proud of her! I hope I am still remembering to tell my kids those kinds of things often when they are fifteen and sixteen. I am sure they will not be asking me to tell them at that age but I know they will need to hear it even more often.
Anytime my kids are “playing mommy or daddy” all I hear is “now why are you in trouble? Don’t do that again, do you understand me?” They discipline them and scold them. Their “kids seem to always be in trouble. I NEVER hear them saying such sweet things like. “I love you, I’m so proud of you. You did such a good job…” If I stop and listen my kids teach me so much about myself. In the eyes of my children I have to say, I’m a ‘meany-head!